Career and Character

It’s upsetting how people in our society judge a person’s character by their profession. If the person is a doctor, engineer, CA, teacher etc. he/she is definitely a very decent and respectable person and if the person belongs to the field of media or is an artist or does a job that requires late night work then surely he/she is indecent, disrespectful and a person of low character. Why the classification? Why don’t people understand that a person’s career choice is what he/she is interested in and what indecent acts a person does is his/her own cheap desires.

It’s upsetting how people judge me on my character just because I belong to a creative field. It upsets me when people think that just because I belong to the field of media I must be a whore, a smoker or a drug addict. My choice of career is what I loved to do. I loved colors, I loved creative writing, I loved photography and that was the reason I opted for media studies not because I wanted to provide sexual pleasure to men or was craving for drugs. If that was the case I wouldn’t need to choose media, it would have been possible in any career field.

I am a girl who has worked on late night projects but never have anyone been able to raise a finger at me because my desire was only to work. My teachers (all men) used to motivate, support and encourage me the most among all other students, not because I was providing them any sexual pleasure but because they saw the dedication towards studies in me.

If a person smokes, or uses drugs and has interest in having sex with random people its his/her personal choice or rather say the company that he/she belongs to has induced an interest in him towards these things. I never prefer such friends because I find it disgusting how people don’t value the life given to them and how the parents don’t bother about their children destroying their lives. Personal lifestyle has nothing to do with a career field; if it did there would be no hijabis in the field of media and there would be no doctors who smoke.

Teaching is one of the noblest professions in the world but I know teachers who ask girls to date them or spend a night with them to gain marks. There are doctors out there who enjoy touching women for the sake of pleasure rather than treatment. Do these people deserve to be respected?

It is a request to people to judge someone on what you see the person to be rather than assuming what a person might be.

What is a man’s favorite game?

There are millions of games in this world but you know which game Pakistani men prefer the most? A girl’s life. Yes, I say this because in spite of knowing the narrow minded abusive culture of our society men use girls for their entertainment. I don’t mean play around with them as girlfriends but rather marry them for fun.

Someone I know recently got divorced just after six months of marriage and you might want to know the reason, well it is because she is pregnant. Her husband doesn’t wish to have a child and handle the responsibility of a wife and a child. I just wish to ask him that if he was not even interested in the responsibility of a wife then why he got married in the first place?

Our society is the one that would kill its people if someone in the west abuses the Prophet (P.B.U.H.) but not be the one to follow his footsteps and have the courage to marry a divorced woman or a widow. Even though he knows this flaw of our society so well he ruined the girl’s life. Again I question why? If all he wanted was sex then he should have visited a brothel. It would have been a more interesting experience for him as he would receive a different woman and different sex styles every night. Oh and yes, in this regard our society is developing well, there are many brothels and whores coming out to entertain such desperate men.