At some point of life, every one of us has cried. Many of us are very emotional and we cry a lot,
others are stronger and have a better control over their tears. People who care
about us and love us get concerned over why we cry but we are never able to
give them the right answer. Often they make assumptions and then explain to us
that whatever is happening is for the best and we should just accept it.
Have we ever asked ourselves why are we really crying? The answer
is very simple. We cry when a situation is not according to our will.
As a child, we used to cry when we didn’t want to go to
school but were forced to. We didn’t want our favorite toy to break but it
happened which made us cry. We wanted to eat our favorite snack but we needed a
healthier meal. We wanted to play but were forced to study. As a kid we didn’t
understand the better but our parents did and hence we were forced to do
something we didn’t want to. The result; crying.
Moving towards maturity, we still cry at many times. The reason
is still the same but now we can’t control it anymore, in most of the
situations. We failed in an exam; we didn’t want to, we were working hard, but
somehow not hard enough to clear the exam. We cry, because we are scared our
parents will scold us. We don’t want to be scolded, we want to be motivated, and
we want to hear “no problem if you failed this time, work harder and you will
pass the next exam”.
Many people even cry when they are in the wrong profession. It
was not their choice, they did it out of pressure from the family. They are
living a life they didn’t want, they are doing a job they don’t like but they have
to. How many doctors, engineers and managers are out there who would have been
happier being a painter, musician or a designer? Or how happy a dermatologist
might have been being a cardiologist, but the decision to become a dermatologist
had to be taken because of better opportunities in the field and better chances
of earning.
When a person leaves us, or dies, it is not according to our
will. It makes us cry. We didn’t want that person to leave us but we can’t make
things happen according to our will. Maybe we can convince a person to come
back into our life by solving problems but we cannot bring someone back from
the grave. This makes us cry even more. Someone we loved so much is no more, we
can’t see them, we can’t touch them, we can’t talk to them; this helpless
thought keeps the tears flowing.
When a girl gets married and has to leave her home, she
cries. She doesn’t want to go, she wants to stay with her parents, her
siblings, in her room, with her favorite food and movies. She wants that
liberty she has at her parent’s house. Her family cries because they don’t her want
to leave as well, but they are forced by the norms of society.
When a person is angry and not talking to us, we often cry. We
don’t want that person’s anger, we didn’t mean to hurt them. We do or say
things that are the real us, which hurts the other person and then they ignore
us and we cry. Considering the person’s importance in our life we decide not to
say or do those things again. In other words we decide not to be ourselves.
When we cry we convince ourselves to accept the situation,
no matter how against it is to us. People who don’t cry are better at accepting
and submitting towards the needs of society and family. They accept that they
cannot take the situation into control and they have to do whatever they are
forced to. They have been taught not to fight for themselves and to accept the
decisions imposed on to them but at times, the very difficult times, even they
cry. They cry because on the inside, they wish they had the power to control
the situations in their lives and be happy the way they wish to be.
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